A recent call from a friend started in panic… “What was she going to do?” “How would she be able to face herself?” “Who could she turn to in this moment where she needed to feel like what she had done was okay?” were the main questions she rambled on through tears. I did my best to answer but after the call, I sat quietly in the room wondering did I tell her answers that I myself would accept if I had been in her predicament. I feel self examination makes for a great topic for each of us. Whom do we give the authority to hold us accountable for our own actions besides God? What would others see me as and does that matter?
Am I a strong survivor; someone who has experienced multiple heartaches and continues to believe in love… or am I a naive dreamer; someone who dreams life best in everyone and turns a blind eye to reality? When I look at my life and ask myself “is this my life” I often have to pause and self exam what I have done to become me…
Who are you when you self exam? Are you all you wish you could be? Who in your life makes you accountable for the person you see when you look in the mirror?
Wendy's Words 
Great post! I think we do have a responsibility to examine our lives and hold ourselves responsible for being our best selves. At the same time, we have to give ourselves permission to sometimes make mistakes–no one is perfect!
Self- Examination is a perfect thought for today. We all face challenges and hear things from others that make us wonder why did he or she say that and is that my reality. I had an experience recently that made me wonder, is this my reality, is this is the truth or am I being summed up by what was said. When we speak to our friends and family, are we saying what they want to hear or are we giving them a reality check. You mentioned some VERY important, “wondering did I tell her answers that I myself would accept”. I always put myself in that person’s shoes keeping in mind their feelings and how I would feel if someone told me that, but at the same time, I want to hear the truth and find that balance between reality and being positive.
I make a conscious attempt to daily examine my day, including my thoughts and actions. I am not always pleased with what has transpired, but I deal with it according. My relationships are very important to me because of my relationship with Jesus Christ, my ultimate accountability partner like no other! I might not be where I think I need to be but I am on my way…self-examination helps and being real truthful with myself in the midst of mistake and failures…and yes, I forgive myself because God has sure enough forgiven me and is teaching me to forgive others. I love me some me thanks to The Lord who has redeemed me!!!
“I’m starting with the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to change his ways. And no message could have been any clearer….take a look at yourself then make a change.” These are the words of the late and beloved MJ. He makes a very good point that we need to continuously self evaluate in order to get a better understanding of who we are and what we represent. So as I reply to this wonderful post I look up and there happens to be a mirror right in front of me, who am I?
We are taught from a young age not to judge others or do not cast stones from within a glass house. As I cast judgement upon myself I know that change is needed and change will come. It’s the circle of life and everyday something changes, no one really lives like the Groundhog Day movie. Even if you think you do, something is always different. Your a day older, the temperature outside is a degree hotter or colder, etc…We all must change and adapt to change to remain strong and fight through the heartaches of life. Each battle with your family, friends, loved ones, only makes you stronger and hopefully wiser.
So I challenge those of you who read this to look in that mirror, take a good long look. Know who you are at your inner core, your heart that is, and praise that person. Be proud of the person in the mirror and live everyday to grow stronger and wiser as that person. Do not let anything or anyone take that person you are away from you because that is all you have. Stay green and growing because in life once you start to ripe you start to rot….
Until we meet again…..RawNature24 out……